Have you ever noticed in business when you like somebody and they do something to annoy you, it’s a little bit annoying..
But..
When you don’t like somebody and they do something to annoy you, it’s hugely annoying..?
I had a staff member back in my Finance days that I didn’t like for a long time. They were a manager in a high area in the business that I was working in.. and we clashed.
We clashed. We clashed every time we had to interact.
Now looking back to that time.. I know the part that I played in that.
When we like some someone.. We let things slide, we let things slip, we let things go.
But,
When we don’t like somebody.. We make a big deal about it. Every little thing annoys you.
What is underlying when we don’t like somebody?
Usually the something underlying is some part of ourselves that we are not recognising.
Some part of ourselves that we maybe dislike, some part of us that we are not accepting and some part of us that we really dislike.
So if you dislike somebody in your business and there’s some things that are getting under your fingernails, getting under your skin, giving you the icks..
I want you to think about how can you put something different into that?
Rather than being annoyed, frustrated and bringing the negative prefacing the interaction before it has even started.. Come with an open mind, adjusted mindset and awareness of yourself.
If I had to the opportunity to do things differently to how I did the back then.. I would.
I know that there would’ve been different outcomes and I now know I could have taken way more responsibility for the altercations and misunderstandings that had occurred.
What responsibility can you take for the altercations and misunderstandings in your environment today?
Mary Jensen
Mindset Master and Behaviour Specialist
M Power Services