One of my most favourite topics!
The impact of past experiences, our brain is such a complex muscle and the way it remembers things is pretty incredible.
We can be absolutely sure that our memory is working perfectly and I used to often really confidently believe so. My brothers and sisters often lean on me for the remembering, because I used to be very certain in how I remember how things had happened.
I used to be very certain..
Until I learned about how our brain remembers past experiences.
I was certain things happened chronologically on the same day in my memory but when I begun really examining my memory and my thinking.. I realised that wasn’t the case.
I was blending three or four different days and then being absolutely certain that they all happened on the same day.
Or I would blend two totally different events together into one. They could have been months apart.
Some of the things that we think about when we are being impacted from our experiences are
A bad experience in a deal going wrong or something didn’t work out the way we wanted to in business.
So we think that we need to learn from that.. That thought then that impacts all the decisions that we make in the future..
Your future decisions should not be fully impacted by the past.
We need to teach our brain not to be stuck in our past and not to be stuck in our memories as our memories are not perfect.
When we are making forward thinking decisions.. They need to be forward thinking, future thinking and not made purely based on previous experiences.
We get to create how we want things to be.
We get to think about what we want create.
If we are thinking that things are gonna go bad, that things might not work out or the deal might fall through because of something that happened in our past..
Then it will happen..
Our thinking creates that occurrence in the future because we are looking for the things that will stop that deal going through, are looking for the things that will make that deal fall over.
That’s what we call the Reticular Activating System (Ras)
We trigger the Reticular Activating System (Ras) with our thoughts.
When we are not looking at the positive things..
We are not in the best mindset to create the best possible outcomes.
So I want you to be really careful about when you think about the things that have happened in the past.
Yes, It is there to teach me and there is something for me to have learnt..
But I must not trust and I must not take that left turn the same way that I did before, because that is not what our memory is doing for us.
Our memory is only giving us some sort of rendition of the past that is made up of lots of different memories. So what we think is reality is not in fact reality.
It is a collage of all the different things that have happened in our past..
All melded together and being filled in.
We fill in those empty gaps by other memories.. those that make us feel good, bad or indifferent.
So I want you to think about the next time you’re making a really important decision.
How do I want this to turn out?
How can I be the most positive about the action that I’m about to do?
How can I create it to be a win-win for both parties?
That’s what’s really gonna change your business, your life and accelerate your career being positive and deciding how you want the deal to go and creating win-wins for everybody.
Mary Jensen
Mindset Master and Behaviour Specialist
M Power Services
